Night sweats and 3 am: staying steady (what breathing can and can’t do)
Hot, then wet, then cold.
Covers off. Covers on.
By the time it passes, she’s wide awake.
The honest part first
Breathing won’t switch a flash off.
The Menopause Society looked at the research in 2023. It does not recommend paced breathing to cut hot flashes.
Two trials found it no better than ordinary breathing.
What breathing can do
Most hot flashes at night come with a waking. The heat passes. The wide-awake part is what’s left.
Slow breathing calms a racing body.
It won’t switch a flash off. It helps her stay steady while it passes, so panic doesn’t ride on top of the heat.
In the moment
- Push the covers off the feet. Leave the light off.
- While it’s hot: in for 4, out for 6, slow.
- Once the heat goes: out longer than in. In 4, hold 2, out 7.
- Still awake? Get up, somewhere dim, and come back when the eyes are heavy.
Free. No account. Ten minutes.
One tap. The screen stays dark. A calm voice. A long, slow breath out.
It ends with the get-up step.
Try the 3 am breath nowWhat to ask a doctor about
HRT works on the hormones. Whether it suits you is a talk to have with your doctor.
Without hormones, it recommends CBT and clinical hypnosis.
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Where this comes from
- Non-hormone therapy for hot flashes, The Menopause Society, 2023
- Paced breathing for hot flashes, trial, J Gen Intern Med, 2013
- Paced vs usual breathing for hot flashes, trial, Menopause, 2013
- Hot flashes and waking in perimenopause, Fertility and Sterility, 2014
- Slow breathing, a review of 15 studies, Frontiers in Human Neuroscience, 2018
- CBT-I first for insomnia, American College of Physicians, 2016